Kiana and Kyle haven’t spoke to their mom in a while. We caught up with them after the show.
A family that Prayers together Stays together tats a true testimony. May God bring you and the family closer together. My prayers are with your Family
Kim, this is Martha (Teen Speak). We all go through pain and family crisis. You are very brave to fight for your children. God has allowed you all to find time to heal and He will work it out but you know you have to place him first. Love will bring you all back together again so let the healing began. The truth hurts so try not to look at the pain because through the pain comes healing. My Love goes out to you the twins and if I can help please let me know.
Well, God bless you all! I adore your family (as you know, you all hold a special place in my heart and you tell my Kailin hello and Merry Christmas and I miss her!). I also know that life is too short, tomorrow is not guaranteed…..all anger stems from being hurt and nobody’s perfect. Admitting mistakes and validating each others feelings is a great start. I hope that tomorrow is a new day for your beautiful family! Happy holidays!
I seems in this clip that the daughter is two seconds from a break down and it looks like her pain is deep. She sucked it up and maintained her composure to get through answering the question.
Her face says it all….
KImberley, I taped this show and sent it to my own mother! It hit home and we are in this exact holding pattern. I don’t yet have a family and children but fear when I do, I very well may choose to continue to distance myself as well.
I’ve read the comments below and It amazes me how people are quick to instruct Adult children to forgive and move on, but no one wants to point out the fact that in order for that forgiveness to occur, the parents of Adult children need to apologize and take responsibility for THEIR actions. And after the apology, like Steve said, YOU HAVE WORK TO DO to make up for lost time and nurturing that has left a hole in the spirit of your Adult children.
Just as the bible says honor thy parents, it also says do not anger thy children while bringing them up with discipline and instruction in the Lord.
Children come to this world a blank slate and what parents imprint onto them is what will be in the fiber of their spirit as they grow into an adult.
If you imprint resentment, anger, and neglect your duty to nurture your children you have sown the first seeds of discord that will will harvest and manifest as the same towards you as they grow into adulthood. WHAT have YOU sown in your children’s spirit?
Kimberley, I commend you for stepping up to the plate and taking responsibility for your actions and explaining WHY!
THAT is the first step to the healing process and what Adult children need in these situations in order to move past their hurt in order to rebuild broken bonds.
God bless and I pray that you and your family have found the healing you need.
So love this. You are correct, most people state the fact that parents are at fault as well. I love this as I can relate!
Continue to prayer and ask God for patients and understanding.
I personally will be waiting to see the change that needs to take place. I have sat back and not said much in order to give all three of you the chance to do what is right for the family as a whole. The holidays are here it starts now!
I have a daughter who hasn’t talked to me in 4 or more years, I miss her everyday. She is angry at me because I didn’t agree with the life she was giving her children. When I pointed out the wrongs she turned against me & blames me for all the wrong in her life. I Pray she will learn to forgive and forget. I sure do miss her & my 2 grandsons. Stay close! And forgive!
If you know where your daughter is just go to her and ask for forgiveness. Don’t try to figure out who was right or wrong. Just own all of it, ask her to forgive you and let her know you love her. if you have an address, start mailing her I love you notes. Nothing is worth your relationship…NOTHING.
Stay committed to family. At the end of the day, there’s nothing more important than family. God bless you!
I fully feel for this family because, I’m living this way now. I’ve decided to take a two year break from my adult children. I’m done with the drama.I hope this family san move forward and rebuild their relationship God Bless them.
Thank you and God bless you and your family!
I lost my mother in 2003, and never had I ever stopped talking to my mother because she gave us the very best of her even when I would have it be different. On December 8th, we buried a twin brother and I realize that no matter what, my family has a unity that is blessed of God and stronger than anything the devil can bring. Family is a gift from God and respecting difference in all is what makes it work. Love people pass the flaws your see in them and let them love you pass the flaws you have…WE ARE ALL FLAWED. Life is unpredictable and the murder of my baby brother has stamped that as reality. You all must choose to release the little things that the DEVIL would use to DESTROY a FAMILY.
Children you owe your mother respect. You resent her decisions but now that you are parents do you think you will do better and be perfect? You will make mistakes and some may be even worse than your mom’s. My son left home to live with my mother at 14 and I let him stay. He was more than happy to come back home after a time. No one will ever love you like your mother. Cherish that, she is the only one you have. Yes you love her, but respect her also.
Thank you so much for your comment!
To the Children, You only get one mother! When she is gone she’s gone. Don’t let your imperfections get in the way of the time you have with your dear mother. Forgive from the heart and realize she’s not perfect. She will probably say some things you don’t like just as you will with her and your children. Push through all that and keep loving and communicating. Although living we lost our dear mother to Alzheimer disease about 2 yrs ago. Today my mother does not even know her own name…I miss this once vibrant, smart and clever woman she once was. Day to day I watch mother struggle just to eat a meal (breaks my heart). Treasure your mom and allow her to treasure you. FORGIVE, HEAL and keep loving…Trust me when I say when they are gone or as in my case here but not here the pain is worse. Please forgive me I hope I have not offeneded any one. Take care Fam.
Thank you and God bless!
Wow Charlotte I am sad; because I remember her that way too. I know first hand your pain. My mother that you know who raised me, has abandoned our relationship and took my children’s love from me. sounds crazy but with eveyrthing in me I forgive. I get lonely and depressed sometimes, but that’s when I draw even closer to Jehovah in prayer and in his word. I don’t hold anything against her I love her the same if not more now then ever because I know that she ism older and getting close to her end of life. I pray that you can be strong and that Jehovah’s Holy Spirit will be able to sustain you through this.
Life is short so embrace the 2nd chance you are getting.
Hello, I have similar story… I’m so glad that your children are willing to move forward and except your apology..I am in the same situation and wish my daughter would stop living in the past, and not keep a grudge. we haven’t spoken in 1 1/2 yrs and she keeps my grandsons from me as well..so happy your able to get your family back and start a new..many blessings to you all…
Thank you so much!
kIANA AND kYLE.. AS I watch your show you had me crying my heart out.Lord knows I feel your PAIN! BUT THIS message is to Steve, can you please contact me because I am going through something serious also. May I get a direct email to see if you or any of your Proffessionals can help me. I am so hurt and feel soo alone that its been going on for over a year. And due to the fact My Daughter lives in St Thomas and I’m in the States… there is alot of legalities that I don’t have the funds so its stale mate for me and my Daughter. I need some guidance and I want to apologize to my daughter because she is the ONLY child I have. And now that both Parents have passed on. This is eating me alive and some time I feel like I am ALONE…. Steve please HELP! I come to your page frequently so I will hope your editing staff member forward this to you.. my email is email@example.com.
that is a beautiful ending and beginning for your family! May Gods peace and the love of Christ be between the 3 of you. Family is so important and there are so many who don’t have parents or any family, so we should be more appreciative of what we have by operating constantly in full “Forgiveness”…..that’s really what its all about….awesome..
Thank you for your comment and God bless you!
UR Welcome!..God bless you and your family
I know exactly what you’re going through. I left my marriage of 25 years and my three grown boys are very distant to me. It hurts. I love them so much but we cant seem to get that bond back. Keep working on it. Ill never give up on my kids. All I fan do is love them and keep trying.
Me to after 17 yrs and I wish we can all just get along and be happy..best of luck to you all
Thank you and as I’m sure you already know, never give up!
God Bless you all! Prayers to y’all !
Thank you and God bless you also!
glad you back with ya fam big homie.
Love ur show Steve and so proud of all ur achievement
Just love each other!!!!!!!!!
Thank you and that is exactly what we are doing!
why do she seem so distant.
second chances is a good thing , good luck to y all and god bless.
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